We want to help you with the important job of parenting—particularly when it comes to child behavior.
Why the focus on behavior? Because as a teacher and family consultant, I’ve seen non-compliant behavior isolate children from experiences, peers and basic human connection. (That’s no good.) And because as a parent, I know defiant behavior wears us down, makes us unable to share the best of ourselves.
Boss Parent aims to make family life easier by teaching behavior management strategies and sharing child development information.
In my mind, behavior management is not about dominance or obedience. It’s about compliance and cooperation. It’s power with, rather than power over children. It’s about giving families tools to discover the needs of the child AND the parents. Then we can find the win-win.
Are You Tired of Saying ‘NO’?
I don’t know any parents who enjoy saying “no” 300 times a day.
The cycle of no just creeps up on us until suddenly it feels as though everything we say to our kids is negative. But like my favorite Aimee Mann song says: It’s not going to stop, ‘til we wise up.
Behavior is communication. Communication of an unmet need. Plain and simple.
Decoding the behavior is not always plain and simple, however. It’s my great joy in life to help families decode behaviors (their kids’ and their own) to reveal the needs, and set them on a course for ‘YES’.
Understanding the needs behind behavior allows us to:
- Transform defiance into willing cooperation
- Confidently navigate problem areas like morning routines, mealtime and bedtime
- Replace “neediness” with independence and self-play
- Teach appropriate social skills for making friends
- Set the stage for successful toilet training and other developmental milestones
I can look at a child’s behavior objectively and mechanically, and zero in on which elements of the equation can be tweaked or added to potentially create more peaceful daily routines. However, the strategies and techniques I write about don’t exist in a vacuum. Families are living organisms with complex dynamics.
Maintaining the peace is an ongoing practice of trial and error. We’ll supply ideas, but ultimately the Boss Parents out there must test them within the context of their own values and situations.
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Co-founder, Boss Parent